Monthly Archives: March 2017

Empower Your Self Talk

Walk through your workplace, shopping mall or while chatting to your friends and it’s fairly likely that you are going to have considerable examples of people being engaging in negative and limiting self-talk.  I’m not saying that they are wrong, a lot of people genuinely have no idea that they are doing this.  Let me give you a few examples that you may be exposed to or actually repeat yourself.

  • I’m scared of flying ….
  • I’m a terrible public speaker ….
  • I can’t spell ….
  • I’m so fat ….

I too have been guilty of one or two of these in the past – changing speech habits require constant vigilance! Every time your use one of these negative descriptive sentences you are giving your subconscious a COMMAND.  You are telling your subconscious to be a certain way regardless of what evidence there is to the contrary.  Also when you use a sentence like “I am a ….. terrible public speaker”, this indicates that this state of being is intrinsically part of who you are in that it cannot be changed.  Repeated often enough, you will reinforce and believe this.

If you must describe yourself in such a way, consider saying something like “I am improving my public speaking skills”.  This means that this is no longer an unchangeable part of yourself!  Over time, changing the way we speak will become a habit.

Spend the next week observing what negative commands you are giving your subconscious and write them down.  Then each time you hear yourself using one of these, stop yourself and reframe it to a positive.  Let me know how you go!

Love,

 

Bianca

Why Transformational Coaching?

Hello everyone, I’m hoping that your week has either been fantastic or you have found some positive in even a small part during the week.  It may be simply appreciating a sunset, or someone cooking you a lovely meal or even just having a wonderful time with family or friends.

I wanted to have a chat about Coaching, in particular Transformational Coaching. The importance of a business coach for Executives in large companies or a peak performance coach for Olympic athletes is accepted and utilised widely. The use of a Transformational Coach to assist people with navigating their daily lives, changing mindsets and goal setting is becoming more widely recognised.  It doesn’t matter whether you are a school kid navigating year 12, a stay at home mum balancing your dreams and hopes for the future with caring responsibilities or someone wanting to improve themselves so that they can apply for their dream job – Transformational Coaching is equally valuable to you all.

How?

Regardless of where you are in life – just starting out, looking forward to retirement or somewhere in between, everybody has something that they want to achieve.  Whether that’s strategies to balance a Senior High School workload or removing blockages that are currently stopping you achieving where you want to be – Coaching helps you crystallise the areas you want to improve, set achievable and realistic goals (SMART goals) and super charge your focus.  What is crucial to understand, however, is that coaching is not about someone external telling you what to do.  It has been written time and time again, that lasting change must come from within not an external source.  What is so exciting is that through the coaching process you will discover that you have ALL the answers right there within you.  A coach provides the space for you to reflect, helps you navigate the process, keeps you accountable, celebrates your successes with you and a whole lot more in between!

This reminds me of a quote I saw recently:

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new” – Socrates

So, are you going to “keep fighting the old” or focus on “building the new”?  It’s your choice.